Hello, everyone it’s Molly here for another video, and as you can see from the title, it’s a continuation of the collaboration series I have going on here with Yesterday’s Wishes, or Lucy. It’s our #BlindPeopleProblems, and yes it’s called #BlindPeopleProblems as like the title of the series, but by no means do you have to be blind to participate in the series that we’re doing. If you want to do your own version of the videos that we’re both uploading, then definitely go ahead and do it. For most of them you kind of do have to have some form of a disability, whether it’s physical or otherwise, but certainly, you don’t have to be blind — we’re both blind, so that’s why we chose that as the title but, yeah. So, last video we did was our top five pet peeves as guide dog users, and as you can see from this time, it’s the top five weirdest things people have said about our disabilities And I have a lot more than five, so if you enjoy hearing these and you want to hear another top five of the weirdest things people have said about my disability, definitely let me know, give it a thumbs up, tell me in the comments down below. And definitely comment down below the weirdest things people have ever said to you about your disability, again, whether it’s physical or otherwise. And if you do it in a blog form or a video form you can always tweet it to Lucy and I, my Twitter is linked down below with #BlindPeopleProblems so we can find them. I will also have Lucy’s version of this video down linked down below. We’re uploading at the exact same time. She’s an awesome chick and she has a really cool accent so you should go check her out, subscribe to her channel if you haven’t already, and I will also leave her channel down below. So, without further ado, I will get into it. This is in no particular order, these are just random things that people have said to me throughout my journey of being a person with a disability. And in no means am I saying these things or sharing these things with you to bash these people, because I’m mad at these people, or anything like that. I’m simply sharing these, one, to show how much education is still needed regarding disabilities and blindness and two, to show you that if you have a disability, again, physical or otherwise, and people have made these kinds of comments to you, that you’re not alone. Unfortunately, a lot of us face these things, and it’s about choosing to take that negative energy that someone has given to you, and turn it into something positive. And so for me, often times when people make negative comments to me or when they sp — (phone rings) I hope I’m still in focus, I just got a phone call. To me, it’s about when people make these negative comments to me or they say these things, I try to recognize that they’re probably just saying it out of ignorance. Ignorance, the definition for that meaning a lack of knowledge or information regarding a specific topic. And so I often think these people are making these comments out of ignorance and this is my opportunity to educate these people. And so I think the best thing you can do in a situation where somebody says these kinds of things to you, and it happens to me all the time, people continuously say ridiculous things on my YouTube videos, comments and everything and I just choose to take that opportunity to educate them on why what they said might be incorrect or not accurate, and if they still continue to choose to want to stay ignorant after I tried to educate them, then at that point that’s when I just walk away. I don’t choose to continue a conversation with those people, that’s my time to say “Alright, I tried my best, now I’m going to choose to leave it alone.” But I think it’s a great opportunity to try to educate people. So that’s my take on it. And that’s why I thought I would share these things with you today. So, the first one I want to share with you, as a lot of you know, I say it in like every video, I’m a motivational speaker, that is my full-time job. This is kind of like my part-time, fun hobby, but my full-time job is speaking, and so if you see me speak, you’ve probably — not probably, you’ve definitely heard me say this one. And this happened to me when I was in grade 8 and I had just gone to my doctor’s appointment and found out that I had lost a significant amount of my vision. And when I went to school the next day and I told my friends what had happened, one of them said “Well at least you’re not dying of cancer.” And in my opinion, you can’t compare peoples’ pain The worst pain that I have ever felt is just as painful as the worst pain you have ever felt. Whether the worst pain you’ve ever felt is when you broke your leg, or when you went through a break up, or when you didn’t get into your dream college, or when your parents got divorced, or when you were diagnosed with cancer. Whatever the worst pain you’ve ever felt is, it’s the exact same as my worst pain. And that goes for everybody you can not compare pain, you cannot compare illness, you cannot compare disability. I always say that if you’ve met one blind person, you’ve met one blind person. We’re not all the same, we don’t all have the same abilities, we don’t all have the same emotions, just like sighted people, just like non-disabled people. We are all unique, and you can’t compare our abilities, you can’t compare our emotions, and you certainly cannot compare the pain that I was feeling losing my vision, and saying “Well your pain doesn’t count because it’s not as great as somebody who’s dying from cancer’s pain.” You just can’t compare those things. It’s not fair, I’ve never experienced that, but this sucks in this moment for me. So I think it’s important to realize that it’s just not appropriate to say that out loud, even if you do think it in your head it’s not appropriate to say something like that out loud to somebody who is feeling devastated in that moment about something that’s going on in their own life. The second one I’m gonna share with you is one where a guy once said to me — I have a lot of crazy things that guys have said to me, like a lot of these are guy-related It’s not because boys are more stupid than girls or anything like that, we’re equally as stupid, just…. in different ways. So, yeah, this one was a guy who came up to me and said, “You’re pretty, you’re smart, you’re funny, I would totally ask you out…. if you were sighted.” I was like “…charming! That’s so nice” And, again, I think I probably touched on this in my dating with disabilities video, which I’ll link down below in case you haven’t seen it, but you know if a guy feels like that about dating me, I don’t want to date him. If you feel like my disability is a burden on you or like you’re such a good person for looking past the fact that I’m disabled and you’re willing to date me anyways like, I don’t wanna date you, sorry no thanks! Next one, number three on the list that I’m sharing today is very similar. This guy asked me out. I said yes. And that’s when he said to me “Okay, well now that we’re like going to go on a date you don’t have to lie to me anymore.” I was like, “Lie to you about what?” He was like “Oh well I know you’re not actually blind.” I was like, really? You know I’m not blind because I didn’t even know I wasn’t blind. I was under the impression that I’m blind. Ah, and he was like “No, no, like you’re too pretty to be blind.” I was like… *sighs* Now, this is something that I hear all the time. And I know a lot of my other blind friends hear, I know that a lot of my other disabled friends in general hear “Oh you’re too pretty to be in a wheelchair.” “Oh, you’re too pretty to have hearing loss.” “Oh, you’re too pretty to be blind.” Or I’ll hear like “Oh. you’re pretty FOR a blind girl.” And it’s like both of these, I don’t take as compliments. Number one: you’re pretty for a blind girl. Okay so I’m pretty, considering I have a disability. You’re pretty like considering you have this major thing wrong with you. this huge turn-off? You’re like pretty considering that. It’s like okay so would I not be considered equally as physically attractive, if I could see? Like if I was a sighted girl, would I be considered ugly if I looked the way I do? I’m only pretty because I have a disability? Like it’s such a bizarre concept to me And I think, my physical disability has nothing to do with my physical appearance. It’s just like really odd to me that people make that connection. And, again, to say like “You’re pretty — you’re too pretty to be blind.” It’s like ok so now you’re saying that all blind people must be ugly. You’re like offending my entire community. All of my blind friends, you’re saying like oh, no, they must be ugly. It’s so inappropriate to say that It’s so inaccurate and it’s funny to me because, so many of my blind friends hear the exact same thing. So if we’re all hearing it, if like were all hearing things like “You don’t look blind.” “You’re too pretty to be blind.” Well then maybe, maybe what you’re saying isn’t a real thing. Yeah. Think about it. Think about it. The next one is one that I honestly just think is so funny and this happened when I was… I believe in grade 11. I was in grade 11 and I just started at a new school So I was like the girl coming in with a guide dog and I had my big dog- Wow that’s a loud truck. I had my big dog, Gypsy, and we’d, you know walk down the halls with her on harness guiding me. And, like I said I was brand new to the school so nobody really knew me. And I heard this guy say to another I guess one of his friends as I walked by he’s like “Oh that’s so cool! I didn’t know they gave midgets guide dogs.” Or like “I didn’t know they gave service dogs to midgets.” Something like that. Something along the lines of I had my service dog… because I’m a midget. Those were his words, not mine. Um, I believe the proper term is Dwarfism, but honestly I’m actually not sure. So, if you guys know the correct term please comment down below and let me know because I would love to be more educated on that topic, on that physical disability, but unfortunately I don’t actually know the correct term. I know its not midget But that’s the term he used And to clarify for people who are like “Why would he even think that?” I’m 4’10.5″ Um, I am very petite. So, I guess because I’m so short he just thought I had Dwarfism? So, yeah. Pretty sure they don’t give service dogs to people with that specific physical disability? Because there’s not really much the dog could do for you? But yeah I thought that was really funny. And then, the last one I’m going to share with you in this video is when I was in the Miss Teen Canada international pageant. For those of you who don’t know that’s a thing I did when I was fifteen years old. And if any of my pageant sisters are watching this this girl who I’m specifically referencing never ended up actually doing the pageant with us. I guess she dropped out. But, prior to the pageant I met up with some of the other contestants Um, for a fundraising event And I was chatting with this girl I believe she was 14, I was 15 and I believe she was a year younger than me. And she turned to me at one point in our conversation and she goes, “You know? You’re so lucky your parents kept you.” I was like “What do you mean?” She was like, “You know, since you’re blind and all. Most people would have chosen to give you away.” And it just like, it blew my mind. And unfortunately, yes, a lot of people do give up their children for adoption when they find out that they have a disability. But I would say the vast majority do keep their children. Do choose to raise their children. And, I just think, even if you think that it’s never appropriate to say that. It’s never appropriate to be like “Wow, you’re such a burden on your family, you’re so blessed they kept you.” It’s like at that time in my life, I had just lost my vision recently, and I was still coming to terms with it and I still felt like a burden on my family. And now I recognize that I’m not, but at the time I still somewhat felt that. And so for somebody to say something like “Gosh you must just be such a handful for your family to deal with.” “I can’t believe they kept you, that’s a shocker.” Like it’s just so, so inappropriate. To not consider how that would make somebody feel is just… not okay. It’s not okay to say something like that. And again it’s like some things, even if you truly believe it, think it in your head; don’t say it out loud. It’s not appropriate to go up to a person with a disability and say things like that. It’s just not. So, that ends this video Those are the top five that I picked to share this time around. Thumbs it up if you enjoyed. If you’re here from Lucy’s channel and you haven’t already hit the subscribe button. I would really love for you to join this little family we’ve got going on here and I’ll see you guys in the next video. Bye!