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Damaged people are survivors! #katijournaltopic | Kati Morton

Hey everybody, happy Saturday! ..and what do I do on Saturday? I have a journal topic. I have an actually really cool one, that came through my email. um, I subscribe to Mark Suster’s blog called Both Sides of the Table and he talked about survivors, and I thought it was really powerful. The quote is, “Damaged people are dangerous. They know they can survive.” I really liked that and it kind of got me thinking of things I’ve overcome in my life, and situations that maybe didn’t pan out the way I wanted them to, but I’m thankful for them now. So, I encourage all of you to take a little inventory, a look back at life on the things you thought would never happen, you could never get through, that your life was over, that boy or girl that broke up with you, you were so ruined, and then now thinking, “Well thank God! If I got everything I prayed for, my life would be a shit show.” See if you feel that way, because that’s how I felt. Have a wonderful weekend, I’ll see ya on Monday! Bye! Subtitles by the community

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18 thoughts on “Damaged people are survivors! #katijournaltopic | Kati Morton

  1. I'm in the middle of something right now that could probably be seen as a set back. Not sure what the outcome is going to be as of yet, but thanks to the help of my family and some others, I'm fighting through it. Even though it would be much easier to just give up and give in to the pressure, I know that giving up will do me more harm in the future.

  2. I agree, but I feel that conversely occasionally what we learn isn't worth the amount of pain we suffer to learn it. If that makes sense!

  3. I've watched this channel almost from the start and I feel like it used to be so much better. I miss the FAQs, there hardly seems to be any now and it's all really short videos like journal topics. I also miss the mini series, like the dietician series and the LGBT series I found them really helpful, lots of info packed in. It would also be cool to see say a themed FAQ, say a different topic on the same day every week. Just my thoughts, don't know if I'm the only one.

  4. Honestly, I know that quote and I kind of have always held it in a negative way in my mind. My thoughts go "yes, I'm damaged, therefore I can withstand even more pain inflicted upon myself" but I am realizing that there is another outlook to this, it also means that I have survived so much and therefore can withstand any other setbacks or any other negativity that may come my way. I like this new perspective much better.

  5. Kati, I was wondering if you could make a video on childhood bullying? I don't mean name calling, but more physical and verbal abuse in school. I went through that for years and I believe it contributed to my existing mental health issues, but my therapist refuses to consider what I went through as "trauma".

  6. I'm 42 days clean of of SH today, and I went all the entire month of July without hurting myself! I never thought I could make it an entire month clean, yet here I am. I feel stronger now, and as much as sh isn't a good thing, I know when I'm recovered it'll make me a stronger person.

  7. Hi Kati,
    Can you or have you done a video on extreme paranoia? I have a friend who thinks everyone is out to harm her. She had medical problems (not mental) years ago that have kept her from working, thus now she relys on others for assistance. The only problem is now she distrusts everyone and eventually drives them away. She feels that her phone and email has been hacked. The police are after her. Her drs try to recommend different types of medications but she refuses to try them. She doesn't think her drs are hete to help. She doesn't think she has a problem and is ALWAYS right. She has lost all of her close friends. I have been her biggest supporter in every way, financially, emotionally, … I let her stay with me because she claimed everyone else where she was staying was trying to harm her. She always lashes out a me saying that I don't care about her or help her in any way. I usually don't engage but forget from time to time, which makes everything worse because she hold grudges forever.
    Just the other day she became enraged over a missed drs appointment and felt the person on the other line was laughing at her. I asked her what happened. She took all of her anger out on me verbally and physically (hitting, kicking, and even bit me). I told her I couldn't do this anymore and even said I would call the police if she continued to attack me. I then told her she had to leave and I would no longer help her on any way anymore. This of course confirmed her paranoia about police and now me trying to harm her. She said if I did call then she would cry rape.
    I love this person with all my heart but am at a loss. Did I do the right thing by completely distancing myself? I don't know where she will end up, maybe the streets. I just know that it has put my own mental health, my physical being, even me financially under so much stress that I am stuck on how to proceed. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

  8. Hey Katie. Thank you for responding to me on your last video. I had an epiphany of sorts today. "I don't know who I am. I have no sense of self." I guess that's one of those things like you know it but you don't know it is the best way to describe that. Anyway, then I ran across this video and it described it perfectly. I thought that you might like it too. It's A. J. Mahari and the title, in part, is 'Who is the borderline?'

  9. #katijournaltopic hey Kati, I saw this quote on Pinterest just now that really spoke to me and I thought you could use it as a journal topic 🙂

    "Be who you needed when you were younger"


  10. This probably sounds ridiculous, buuuuut is there a way to control the intensity of crying? I've just recently been able to let myself cry again, but once I start, I just can't seem to stop. I just sit there and bawl my eyes out and it often gets to the point where I get so exhausted and I can't breathe anymore and I pass out.. I don't think that's normal, so I was wondering if there's a way to make it less intense..? Thanks!

  11. Kati, I was wondering if you could do a video on making friends while depressed.  I became depressed around when I was transitioning between primary and secondary school and because of this I lost contact with old friends and failed to form new ones.  Do you have any adivice?

  12. Hey Kati, you should really consider doing a collab video with Trauma University. They are a starting organization that helps survivors of childhood abuse reclaim there lives afterwards. Please look them up it would be amazing

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